The world is full of vices today. It is especially difficult for women to survive here, let alone young girls. Every day we hear instances of abduction, abuse, rape and sexual harassment in all places for women – at home, office and even in school.

Should girls then cower in fright and hide in a corner? Or should they be dependent on the male figures like fathers, brothers, friends, and relatives?

Neither of these options is practically possible moreover, they are downright wrong. Women have to learn to survive in this vicious world. They have to learn to combat not only harassment but also sexual exploitation while moving ahead in their career or activity.

Parents are acutely anxious about sending their young daughters into the outside world. However, young girls have to spread their wings in order to flourish in their career and life. What is the solution then?

The solution is to create awareness in the minds of young girls about sexual advances and exploitation. Most often, very young girls are not even aware that somebody is abusing them sexually. This happens when the offender is a known person – a friend, neighbour or relative. This is when sexual awareness has to be taught.

As a parent, teaching your daughter about ‘good touch’ and ‘bad touch’ is very crucial. Let us begin by first understanding the difference ourselves.

What is Good Touch?

A “good touch” is one that is not offensive and uncomfortable to a girl. Every touch that a girl feels must be with her full and conscious permission.

If a person touches a girl, they should do only after knowing or ascertaining fully well that she would not object to it.

This is the rule for even fathers, brothers, uncles, or grandfathers. No family member, relative, neighbour, or friend can touch a girl without her permission. If they continue to do so after her objection, it is termed as a sexual offence.

The following are considered as good or safe touches:

  • Holding your hand
  • Patting your back
  • Putting an arm around your shoulders

Helping you in an injury like carrying you if you faint or removing a thorn or splinter from your leg might hurt but help is necessary here. This too should not prolong for more time than necessary.

Generally, good or safe touches are those touches which your child does not find objectionable.

What is Bad Touch?

The term ‘bad touch’ means any touch that the child objects to and which affects the child in a negative way. Bad touch is a broad term which can be classified into 2 categories.

  1. Unsafe or harmful touches

Pushing, elbowing, pinching, kicking, etc. are touches which hurt the child. These abusive touches might harm the child and are termed unsafe.

Parents must teach their girls that such kind of touches should be strongly objected to. Girls must openly protest against such unsafe touches.

The intent is important. Touching with intent to harm is a criminal offence. Not all touches are harmful and they may have touched by accident. Make sure you determine the intent before acting.

  1. Unwanted or offensive touches

Touching girls in the wrong places or their private parts, kissing them or hugging them without their consent, etc. fall under this category.

Girls must be taught from a very young age to say a strong ‘no’ to such touches. Even if close family members like a girl’s father touches the girl in a wrong way, she must know to say a polite but firm “no”.

Although one might argue that a father has the liberty to touch his own daughter, try to make the girl understand that even a father has his limits. In these days of parental sexual abuse, girls must be taught to be on guard always.

Difference Between a Touch and a Caress

First, teach your daughter the difference between a touch and a caress.

A touch is a light or casual physical contact.

A caress is an intended and purposeful physical contact with a romantic or sexual intention.

Make your child understand the difference. Girls are very shrewd and have an uncanny ability to sense a “caress” when they feel one. They express it as “I feel uneasy” or “I felt like caterpillars were crawling on me” or “I felt like puking”.

Tell them to protest strongly against such caresses and move away from the scene. They should not ignore what happened, brush it off, and move on. Characters of such predatory nature should be reported to the police and justice should be served. There should be no place for them in our society.  

Ways to Teach Your Daughter About Good and Bad Touch

  1. First, make you understand that she is the owner of her body. Tell her that her body is solely hers and no one, including parents or siblings, have the right to touch her without her permission. Ask her to express loudly her objection if she does not like the touch makes her uncomfortable.
  1. Teach your girl what her ‘private parts’ are. For very young girls, use the phrase “all that your undies cover”. This makes them understand that all the parts covered by undergarments are deemed private.

For slightly older girls, use the phrase “all that a swimsuit covers”. This gives them a clear idea of where they should not be touched even casually. However, just because she wasn’t touched in a private part doesn’t automatically make it a good touch.

  1. Teach the girl that sometimes adults (like parents, babysitters, relatives or siblings) may help the child to change their diaper or clothing or bathe them or clean them after they use the bathroom. Make the child understand the difference between “helping” and “touching unnecessarily or for a long time”.
  2. Teach them that strangers must be dealt with caution and alertness. Even a neighbour or friend come under the stranger category when it comes to touches. Educate the child that strangers do not have the liberty to touch the child unnecessarily. Teach the girl to maintain a physical distance right from the start.
  3. A touch from even close relatives can sometimes be offensive. Even uncles and brothers have been known to sexually harass girls at a young age. Motivate the child to speak out against such atrocities even if they are from close kith and kin.
  4. Educate the child that for unsafe touches, she has to act as follows
  5. Ask the other person to stop touching. It may have been an accident.
  6. If the other person persists, strongly object in a loud voice.

iii. Scream and attract attention.

  1. If no help is around, run away from the scene.
  2. Immediately report to parents, teachers or even the police.
  3. Never hide such things from parents.

vii. Do not feel ashamed as you did nothing wrong.

Most importantly, talk to your child in a casual manner while giving this advice. Make the child feel comfortable first and then educate. If the child does not want to talk about it, take up the topic at another time. Create a friendly atmosphere at home or school where the child can open up to you.

The significance of saying “NO”

Teach your daughter that is perfectly fine to say “NO” – in fact, it is her right not to accept any situation that is uncomfortable for her or that diminishes her self-esteem or her personal space.

Remember as a parent, you are the best protector of your child. But teach your child that self-help is the best help. Teaching your daughter about good and bad touch is highly necessary in today’s world and the sooner you do it, the better.

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A child is the dream of every parent come true- the culmination of his/her desires, the materialization of his/her ambition and the torchbearer of his/her legacy. Every parent inevitably dreams for greatness to be bestowed upon his offspring. These dreams are usually woven around the child’s future- what the child will become, what he/she acquires and how he/she lives. Most often parents tend to perceive their unfulfilled desires as goals for the child.

In this process, have you tried understanding your child’s aspirations?

Gone are the days when children used to blindly toe the line and obey their parents unquestioningly. With technology sweeping every aspect of our daily lives, children are exposed to new concepts, revolutionary ideas and radical thinking. Children have developed the art of questioning every act or event and tend to evolve a thought process of their own. In such a situation, thrusting our ideas on the child or forcing him to give up his aspirations would be the biggest folly a parent could commit.

WHAT ARE YOUR ASPIRATIONS FOR YOUR CHILD?

Every parent paints a vision of what he wants his child to be and this differs from individual to individual. But on the whole, on analyzing this data, we found the predominant parental aspirations to be:

  •        A happy child
  •        A healthy child
  •        An intelligent child
  •        An all-rounder
  •        A well-behaved child
  •        A top performer in academics

Above all this, some parents may aspire for the following from their children

  •        Affluence
  •        Social status
  •        A  touch of  the genius
  •        A prominent personality

Whatever the case may be, it is not wrong to aspire for your child but it is more important to put their aspirations first, ahead of yours.

You should not have too many though, so be careful not to choke on your aspirations, parents.

A simple assessment of the academic grades of  3500 middle school students was done along with their parents’ expectations in Bavaria. It was found that when the parents’ expectations are high but realistic, the children’s grades shot up. But the moment the parents started to over-expect from their child, the kid’s grades took a nosedive. This clearly shows that it is not wrong to expect but clearly wrong to over-expect from your child.

Why all this confusion? why not take the simple route of understanding your child’s aspirations? This is how you do it.

    1.Have a heart- to-heart chat with your child.

Sit with your child and open up a conversation on the topic of his interest. Slowly bring in the topic of his future, ambition, goal etc. It is important that you merely initiate the conversation. Then LISTEN.

  1. No negative responses.

Do NOT negate, criticize or ridicule the child for whatever he might express even if it might be a shocking revelation for you. For instance, you might have dreamt of your child becoming a scientist, he might want to become a painter.

  1. Accept his choice

Hear the child out fully. Then question him gently if you find his aspiration to be a very different one. You have every right to question but none to be judgemental. Merely accept his decision whatever it may be.

  1. No motivation?- ok- but no demotivation!

Sometimes parents are not able to digest the academic, career or life aspirations of the child. In such cases,  if you cannot motivate, be passive- do not demotivate them.

  1. Don’t over-react

In the process of encouraging your child, don’t exceed yourself in your enthusiasm. Adopt a balanced stance to allow the child to make a realistic judgement about his aspiration.

  1. Celebrate his strengths, identify his weaknesses

Now that you are at the crossroads of making important decisions regarding your child and his aspirations, it is imperative that you examine his strengths and weaknesses objectively. This will help you guide the child in the future in times of need. Most importantly, it will help you to stop him from taking wrong turns in life.

Your child may be a great guitarist but he might fail in algebra. Never mind, try motivating the child in the field of his passion and strength. Your support is the best foundation you can provide.

  1. Do not thrust your ambitions on your child.

You might have wanted to be a great ballerina, don’t nag your child to do a pirouette if she can’t. Allow the child to spread her wings and soar high to find her own destination.

  1. Be supportive always

Children often fail even after choosing their own path. Do not adopt the ” I -told-you-so” attitude. Be a support to fall back on at all times, especially when they fail.

Children are the footprints we leave for the future. Make sure they leave an indelible mark in the world by understanding their aspirations and supporting them always.

Let’s Practise can help your students excel. We are teachers and parents ourselves, so we have a lot of experience dealing with children. We offer worksheets and test prep material for Math, Science, English, Hindi, and more. You can give them some extra information with whatever they want to pursue or lend them a helping hand in the areas they are weak. Just contact us to begin!

It is very difficult to make today’s generation listen to you. It is essential for students to understand the concepts and not treat subjects as mere topics for passing the examination.  To make this happen teachers should make their class fun and exciting for students. Especially if it is a science class, then teachers can easily evoke the natural curiosity of children through lively classes and digital learning.

Experts at Lets Practise share five tips to make the science class interesting and make students love science.

 

  1. Get them engaged

Engaging students in some activities is a great way to get the science class started. This will refresh the young minds and keep them excited for the rest of the class. Students should be encouraged to prepare and stick colourful charts related to their lessons on the classroom walls.  The teacher can use them to demonstrate science concepts and also involve students in discussions. End each class with a great question that students can solve in the next class.  

 

  1. Evaluate student’s understanding

It is very important for teachers to know how deep students understand their lessons. Every student’s level of understanding is different. So you can evaluate your students by having surprise class tests, checking their lab reports or by asking one of them to conduct a small science experiment in the class and explain the results.

 

  1. Explain difficult concepts

Some students are hesitant to clarify their doubts in class for fear of being embarrassed. Teachers should welcome questions even illogical ones and then bifurcate them as easy and tough science concepts as perceived by students. Teachers should then elaborate on these topics and try to make them simple.

Example: They can explain the process of growth of plants by sowing seeds in their class windows, etc.

 

  1. Assign  science projects to groups

Projects are a great way to enrich the child’s experience. Teachers can divide students into groups and assign one project for each group. This way student will get time to explore science concepts and also learn together. Group projects will also encourage students to coordinate with each other. The teacher can also gift certificates and awards for the best team project. Teachers can suggest topics like the best use of renewable energy sources, solar energy projects, the life cycle of a butterfly, etc.

     

  1. Use technology

Teachers can use digital technologies to empower children.  It is proven that visuals are much powerful than words. Teachers can project complicated science concepts or chemistry experiments on a digital blackboard for ease of understanding. This can also be used to study the generation of electricity, rain cycle, etc which cannot be visualized in class otherwise.

 

Students will face many situations in life where they can apply different science concepts. Though some science concepts are boring, a teacher can make them fun and interesting for students. Those were five tips from our experts to make your class interesting. If you have any suggestions or personal experience that can help science students, please share them with us at  http://www.letspractise.com/contactUs                                                  

                                                            

 

Just like the real world, the internet has some unsafe places. However, it is even easier to come upon this unsafe place by accident. On the web, there are no clear lines between what is okay and what isn’t. You have to rely on tools and communication so your child can surf the net in a safe manner. Here are eight tips for keeping your child safe online.  

Awareness

Pay attention to what your child sees and does on the internet. Not everything has to be physical to influence your child so you cannot afford to neglect the virtual realm. There are certain risks you take while being online, and children are more susceptible to these risks.  

The first thing that you should do as a parent acknowledges that the internet is not a very safe space for your child and that there are certain dangers that lurk in the shadowy corners. You have to be on alert and vigilant when it comes to child safety online.

Unfortunately, there are people who will try to exploit the innocence of your child, so be wary. The dark side of the internet is a pathway to many things some consider to be unnatural. Cybercrime, cyber bullying, and damaging online reputation are just some of these.

Research

You must get involved with your child’s cyber world. There’s just no way around it. Ignoring the problem or acting indifferent to it will not make the problem go away. In fact, things will only get worse. If you are knowledgeable of what your child sees, you can identify a conflict quicker. You can then step in quickly before the situation escalates.

Some websites may look child-friendly, using attractive colours and designs to lure kids in. Upon closer examination, you may find that the site is actually dangerous.  

Keep the computer in a location where it is easy to see. If it is hidden, you will not be able to monitor them easily or worse, they could be tempted to visit bad websites because of the secrecy. We do not want to scare you to the point where you outright ban the internet. We are just telling you to be aware of what is on the world wide web.

Create Rules

There should be set rules in your household regarding internet viewing. They don’t have to be a rigid schedule, but you should have limits, for example, one hour every weekday and two hours on weekends. You can even have a list of sites that they are allowed / not allowed to visit, to clear up any confusion.

Many children spend far too much time on their computer, which is not healthy. There is a whole world for your child to explore. Encourage them to go outside rather than stay cooped up inside with the computer. Enforcing these rules will go a long way in preventing internet addiction.

Educate Them

This isn’t just about you controlling what they see. They have to understand why you are doing this.

Teach them important online lessons, as given below:

  • Never reveal your name, address, school, picture, or phone number online.
  • Avoid opening email, attachments or messages from anyone you don’t know.
  • Do not respond to any inappropriate messages directed at you.
  • Never get together with adults you met online.

You can also add any other lessons as you see fit. Tell them that it is for their own safety, not because you want to spy on them or police them. Once they understand and accept that, they will be more open.

Also, tell them to logout of the computer and shut it down once they finish their internet session.  

Beware of Social Media

Social networking websites such as Facebook have content only suitable for those 13 and older. However, some children will lie about their age and register to create an account anyway. This could lead to harmful consequences. The anonymity of the internet provides a platform for people to threaten, intimidate, and harass without having their true identity outed.  

On websites such as Reddit and Tumblr, people create their own persona and are free to  They could be exposed to indecent images or comments. The internet is such a place where your child might stumble upon violence, hate speech, and other vulgar material unknowingly. Such forums should be closely monitored or avoided.

Block Harmful Sites

Parental controls offer you the ability to block websites. There are ways to block a website. That is not too difficult. If you feel a site is unsafe for your child and you don’t want them to view it, you can blacklist it on your computer.

There are plugins and software apps that you can download when it comes to blocking or restricting websites. Any website that explicitly states that the material contained is for 18+  should be blocked.   

Turning on ‘Safe Search’ in Google filters out offensive and inappropriate material. It’s not just the computer, but the tablets, and the mobile phones too. The internet never forgets, and once you post something online, even if you delete it, its presence will linger.

Protect Your Privacy

Privacy is of utmost concern. Your child may reveal identifying information about themselves without even realising it. This is obviously not their intention, but you should be extra careful about this.  

Your email is especially important as someone with access to your email can just click ‘forgot my password’ to gain access to your other accounts.

No matter how hard you try, some inappropriate things might still pop up. As such, tell them to come to you whenever they see something uncomfortable. You can then take appropriate action. Assure them that it is not their fault if they viewed something by accident so they won’t fear to get into trouble.

There is a staggering amount of information on the web, some great and some horrible. Even us adults need to be careful and mindful of what we put out there for public viewing with suspicious characters lurking about.

The bottom line is that who kids are on the internet is not who they are in the real world. However, you want them to be careful.

The Internet for Learning

The internet can be a great tool as long as you use it correctly. It doesn’t just have to be for fun and games.  Your child can use the information for help with homework and tests, or if they are curious about something. There are many educational sites as well that can help your child learn. One such website is Let’s Practise.

With Let’s Practise, you can get sample papers, worksheets, and tests for children from 3rd to 9th standard. You can find informational material for children studying in CBSE, ICSE, and SSC Boards.

To take advantage of all these educational information and more, write to us, call us, or let us reach you. Whatever you do, contact us now. We are the safest place on the internet!

“If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his own language, that goes to his heart.” ~ Nelson Mandela

India is a nation of many cultures, dialects, and religions. With 22 official languages and many more regional languages, there is a wide selection available for your children to choose from.

Because of the three-language formula in centrally administered schools, it is compulsory for every child to learn three languages. You have to decide what their first, second and third language will be. State syllabus usually has two languages.

Our nation was divided and reorganised on the basis of language. We must realise that this ‘weakness’ is actually our strength, making us one of the most diverse nations ever. This three language policy will benefit everybody by bringing us together again as one unified country and help keep India intact.

In the words of Frank Smith, psycholinguist – “One language sets you in a corridor for life. Two languages open every door along the way.”

Students shouldn’t perceive languages as a burden. In fact, studies have shown that learning an extra language is advantageous and helps improve focus, concentration, memory, and intelligence. Also, it takes less time for a child to learn a language than an adult, so it is good that schools are doing this at a young age. Here are the factors that should weigh into your decision and the pros and cons of selecting a particular language:

Languages Available

The first factor that plays into your decision is the options that the school offers. Obviously, if the school doesn’t teach French, there will be no way for you to enrol in French class. Your first step should be to look at the options you can select as this eliminates some languages instantly. From the list of languages the school offers, you can narrow down your list.  

Parental Knowledge

The parent’s knowledge of the language may also play a part. If the mother or father is fluent in the language, they can help the child learn and teach them at home. Parents can help answer questions and clarify doubts regarding the language. This isn’t absolutely required as you expect the teachers to take care of it. There are always tutors available to help.

Comfort Level

Are you comfortable with your child learning a particular language? It is not just about you, as your kid should also be comfortable. After all, they are the ones who will learn the new language. You should sit down with your child beforehand and look at all the options available. Some students opt for Sanskrit as it is easier to learn and score well than other languages. Whatever you do, be sure to get your son or daughter’s input first so they are comfortable with the decision.

Relevancy & Difficulty

One should look at the practical usage of the language while making their choice. You need to examine how frequently people speak, read, and write in the language. For example, although some of the more ancient languages such as Sanskrit are part of the Indian heritage, they are not spoken a lot today. On the other hand, Sanskrit is the language of Vedas, Shastras and classical literature and those with a historical bent of mind should consider it. The key question to ask yourself is whether your child is actually learning the language. They could end up just memorising the information and forgetting about it after the end of the school year.

Future Employment

Will it help them in the place where they seek employment? Obviously, this depends on where they will seek employment. Your child could plan on working in the same state, move to another state, or leave the nation. Employment may seem far off, but it is difficult to change languages halfway through school.  Then comes the conundrum of whether they will retain the language learnt in school. Often times, children tend to just study for marks and forget about the information once the exams are over. Either way, keep their future in mind for sure.

Regional vs. Foreign Languages

According to this study by World Atlas, the five most spoken languages in India are Hindi, Bengali, Telugu, Marathi, and Tamil. Each state has its own local language, with some even having two or three. Learning to read and write the local language will help the child traverse the place without the help of their parents. In some places (mostly rural areas),  the street signs and store names are only in the regional language, and anyone who is unable to read them will get lost.   

On the other hand, German, French, Russian, Greek, Arabic and Japanese are some foreign languages that your child can learn. However, the school should offer these languages. The debate is ongoing about whether children should learn regional languages or foreign ones first. Foreign languages give children more exposure to the world outside of India. As of late, many students in the US are opting to learn Mandarin Chinese.

The final decision is yours to make. If you want your child to learn about the roots and ancient culture, they should take Sanskrit. If you want them to learn the most popular language, they should go for Hindi. It would be suitable for them to learn their mother-tongue for their own heritage. For anyone looking at the present, the best thing would be to make them learn the local language. A glance to the future and English or a foreign language may be the way to go.   

Many parents tend to concentrate more on maths, science, and social studies, and language tends to get ignored. You should not do this. Place equal emphasis on all subjects as bad marks in one will drag the entire average down. Fluency in languages will help your children to express themselves clearly – which is instrumental not only for marks but for any life activity.

We work with and tutor students from 3rd to 9th standard on a variety of school subjects, and language is one of them. We will help them understand the language, and through increased understanding, their marks will increase as well. Hindi courses for CBSE and ICSE boards are our speciality. Contact us now.